Getting truly comfortable with both giving and receiving

Giving and receiving – two sides of one flow. Yet why is receiving kindness or help harder than giving? December’s introspective energy illuminated this imbalance for me: I give freely, yet hesitate when roles reverse. ‘Do you allow yourself to receive?’ This blog explores why finding balance can feel vulnerable, how it deepens connections, and practical ways to honour both energies.

As we approach the end of the year, December often invites us to reflect on our connections with others. It’s a time when giving feels natural, but how often do we think about what we allow ourselves to receive? It’s not always as easy as it sounds. At least to me.

I’ve realised that the balance between giving and receiving is far more complex than I ever imagined. For much of my life, I’ve been more focused on giving, perhaps unconsciously moving away from being on the receiving end, as that always felt much harder. But recently, I’ve been learning to let go of the resistance I have to receive. A recent session with Rebalancer Judith challenged me with a simple yet profound question: “Do you allow yourself to receive?”

That question stayed with me. I’ve noticed how unfamiliar and even uncomfortable receiving can feel. Whether it’s material things, love, care, or support. In fact, this struggle is more common than I might realise. According to an article in Psychology Today, The Neglected Art of Receiving, learning to receive is deeply connected to emotional growth and self-compassion.

As I continue to open up to it, subtle shifts in my energy are starting to happen. It’s an interesting process, one that seems to ripple outward, creating a flow that touches other areas of my life and practice.

Building connection through authentic feedback

Another layer of the concept is receiving and giving authentic feedback. It extends to the emotional and energetic exchanges we have, including the authentic feedback we offer and receive in relationships. When we share and accept feedback honestly and openly, it clears misunderstandings and deepens connections. This practice, when done from a place of presence, nurtures growth for both parties. Receiving feedback without defensiveness allows us to better understand others, creating alignment and strengthening bonds. It’s a powerful way to move forward together in relationships.

Balancing energy in bodywork

The 80/20 mantra I’ve learned in my Rebalancing training resonates with this idea: focus 80% of your energy on yourself and the other 20% on others. This isn’t about being selfish – it’s about ensuring your own cup is full so that when you give, it’s from a place of abundance, not depletion. It’s also about staying connected to yourself, allowing space to receive subtle information from the person you’re working with. By being open and attuned to their needs and energy, you create a dynamic exchange where giving and receiving flow harmoniously, benefiting both you and the person on the table.